The past few weeks haven't been pleasant.
I feel messed up most of the times and the deluge of assignments isn't helping.
Yet,what's the point of wallowing in a cesspool of despair?
Everyday I walk around the bend,alone or not alone,I'd reflect on the day's happening.
Most of the time,I'd be disappointed.
I'm not efficient.
I'm not fast.
I get flustered easily.
Then again,there's no point in comparing yourself to others.
Here's an article.
In a world where we are constantly being told to be rich, pretty, successful and smart, it’s sometimes hard not to compare yourself to others. Whether it’s the luxuries of some face in Elle, or perhaps the opportunities of a peer, envious feelings have a way of creeping up on us. But just because the occasional begrudging thought sneaks in, doesn’t mean we can’t squash it before it goes to war on our self-esteem.
1. Be Aware & Always Address
As with most of my tips, the first trick is to become aware of what you are thinking. Catch yourself in the act one day being envious. Take a moment to consciously stop yourself, and ask yourself why you feel that way. Envy says a lot more about you and your insecurities than it does about the person you’re envious of. You’re the only person that can make you feel anything, so if you’re feeling envious, it’s something inside you. Pinpoint what it is that is making you feel so green, and address it. Know that it is there, know why it is there, and know that you can overcome it.
2. Be Grateful
Instead of focusing on all the things you don’t have that others do, focus on what you do have and how grateful you are for those things. Gratitude was our last lesson, so I’m not going to rehash it, although you are welcome to revisit 8 Ways To Practice Gratitude here.
3. Concentrate On Your Strengths
You may not be on the cover of Vogue or at Harvard Grad School, but you still have a lot going for you. Yep. Read that again. You have a lot going for you. Each of us have unique skill sets, personalities and perspectives on life that give us individual assets that no one can take from us, and more importantly, that no one else has. Stop discrediting your talents! Yes, you! Stop discrediting your talents, your skills, and the time & effort you put into your life’s passions! That’s all you, and no one can take that from you. So, relish in it. Right now, take a second to concentrate on your strengths, and be proud of yourself. Next time you’re feeling envious, remember how you did it just now, and take a second to concentrate on your strengths.
4. Focus On Your Life Path
No one has the same journey in life. Even if one walks in the exact steps of their mentor, there are no doubt different forks in the roads. Your road is yours alone, and even if it doesn’t seem like it sometimes, it holds just as many opportunities and adventures as anyone else’s path. Every day is yours to find something to create, something to learn, and something to find happiness in. Envy takes you away from seeing any of that because you’re too busy concentrating on someone else’s road that you’re never even going to walk on. Stop trying to jump the hedges and stick to your path because it leads to your destination. It may have different bumps and it may take the long way, but you’re going to get to where you’re going as long as you keep walking. Promise.
5. Be Cool With Imperfection
Oh man, watch out, I’ve got some breaking news for you all: No one is perfect! Not me, not you, not your arch nemesis from middle school whose Facebook you can’t seem to pry your eyes off of. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s cool. It’s cool because, to be frank, it has to be. If you don’t learn to be content with your imperfections, you will drive yourself insane. When you focus on your imperfections, that is all you see. Next time you find yourself picking your “imperfections” apart, look at the whole picture. The less time you spend zeroing in on your one tiny “imperfection”, the less time it’s there. That’s real talk. The only reason you can always see it, is because you’re always looking for it.
6. Love What You’ve Got
There is this illusion that “more” equates to “happiness”. This couldn’t be further from the truth. If you don’t learn to appreciate and love what you have, it will never be enough and you will never be happy. Money, cars, fitness, whatever– you’ll always want more, and will always find ways to compare what others have to what you don’t. Look at all you have, and know you are blessed to have it. To have more than what you already have is a bonus, not a necessity. “More” doesn’t equate to “happiness”, happiness equates to more.
7. Distract Yourself
If all else fails, distract yourself. Get off the internet, leave the room, do whatever it takes to get yourself into a good headspace. Being envious is just about one of the worst ways you could spend your time, so if you’re not in a place to overcome it mentally quite yet, just take yourself out of the equation. Go do something you enjoy, and cultivate good vibes instead of a nasty green hue.
And now, just let go of your envy. You can do it. You don’t need it in your life. You know your strengths, you know your path, you have everything you need and you’re amazing. Basically, you have it all. Don’t ever forget it.
That being said,I have countless rooms for improvement.
I SHOULD FEEL EXCITED.
I FEEL EXCITED.
